"Let's talk about all the good things and the bad things that may be." (Salt 'n' Peppa) What As a teen and a young woman, a lot of my questions about sex and sexuality were met with a "Ask me again when you are older". To a degree, I think that was appropriate. A lot… Continue reading You’re Invited to Talk about Sex
Ephesians 5:21-25 still frustrates me. I don't like the idea of being "subject" to anyone. Maybe it's the red-blooded American in me, maybe I'm actually a closet feminist (not likely), but most likely, it's just my fallen humanity saying, "I am the master of my own life." Despite not really caring for those verses, I know… Continue reading Subject to Your Husband, as to the Lord
Last week, I started talking about what happens to marriages when spouses practice frequent sacramental Confession. Long story short, it's a very good thing. You should do it. The next logical step is to see how the Holy Eucharist can affect your marriage. Again, the short version: it's very good. You should receive the Holy Eucharist… Continue reading Marriage and the Holy Eucharist
I've got another NFP power couple to introduce to you today: Kate and Ben Hendricks! I've run into Kate here and there online, you might recognize her from Stumbling Toward Sainthood, but in addition, she recently started a podcast with Ben under the umbrella of their site The Holy-ish Hendricks. What was your longest period… Continue reading NFP in the Trenches – Kate & Ben’s Story
Last week, I started talking about the real changes that need to be made in how we talk about NFP. Let's keep that going and tackle my next least favorite thing about the NFP subculture: The NFP Police. You'll encounter them in online forums, in marriage prep, in books, and even on a bad day,… Continue reading NFP in the Trenches – The NFP Police
Lately, most of my conversations start out, "so I read this thing online about NFP". My husband jokingly referred to my "obsession with the NFP subculture". Like any subculture, there are perennial debates. One of those is the grave/just debate, on which I laid out my feelings at the end of the last post, and… Continue reading NFP in the Trenches- Charting: why wait?
Before I got married, when someone said Natural Family Planning, I thought of this: After I got married, had a kid, and actually had to start to postpone pregnancy, when someone said NFP, I thought of this: That is not an uncommon experience. NFP is billed as a magical system that helps unite a couple… Continue reading NFP in the Trenches- time to change the conversation
One of my favorite experiences from college was helping to run a psychology study where we were looking at the effects of being exposed to sexualized images. It turned out that for both men and women, after being exposed to sexualized images, they were likely to objectify women in any scenario. I don't know if… Continue reading Better Love Stories
Disclaimer: I'm not a theologian, I'm a very novice Theology of the Body aficionado. This is meant to start a discussion, not to proclaim dogma. Please do feel free to discuss! Second disclaimer: I'm talking about married sex here. Just thought you might want to be warned. Now on to the sweeping generalization! Sweeping generalization: in… Continue reading Conflict of Desire is a Good Thing!
Vocation: a call from God to a distinctive state of life, in which the person can reach holiness (Modern Catholic Dictionary, Fr. John Hardon, S.J.). One of the best things that happened during Vatican II was the declaration of the Universal vocation: holiness. ...all the faithful of Christ of whatever rank or status, are called to the… Continue reading Motherhood isn’t a Primary Vocation